5 Ways to Support Your Partner During Her Labor and Delivery

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Labor and delivery is a time of great excitement and anticipation for both parents. However, it can also be a time of stress and uncertainty. As a partner, you can play a vital role in supporting your partner during this time. By understanding what she needs and offering your support in the ways that she needs it most, you can help her to have a positive and empowering birth experience.

Here are five ways to support your partner during her labor and delivery.

Be present and engaged

One of the most important things you can do for your partner during labor and delivery is to be present and engaged. This means being there for her physically and emotionally, and being willing to do whatever she needs.

In the early stages of labor, you may be able to help your partner to pass the time by watching a movie, playing a game, or going for a walk. As her contractions become stronger, you may be able to help her to breathe through them, offer her massage or counter pressure, or simply hold her hand.

It is important to be aware of your partner’s needs and to be responsive to them. She may need you to be quiet and still, or she may want you to talk to her and reassure her. She may also appreciate you helping her to make decisions about her care.

Advocate for her

Another important role you can play as a partner is to advocate for your partner. This means speaking up on her behalf and making sure that her needs and wishes are respected.

During labor and delivery, your partner may be feeling overwhelmed and vulnerable. She may not be able to speak up for herself, or she may be afraid to do so. This is where you come in.

Be prepared to talk to the medical staff about your partner’s birth plan and preferences. If she has any special requests, make sure that they are communicated to the staff. Also, be prepared to ask questions and to seek clarification about any procedures or medications that are being offered.

Help her to stay comfortable

Labor and delivery can be a physically uncomfortable experience. There are a number of things you can do to help your partner to stay comfortable during this time.

  1. Encourage her to move around and to change positions. This can help to relieve pain and pressure. You can also help her to find a comfortable position to labor in.
  2. Offer her a massage or counter pressure. This can help to relax her muscles and to relieve pain.
  3. Offer her sips of water or ice chips. This can help keep her hydrated and prevent dehydration.
  4. If she is feeling nauseous, offer her a cool compress on her forehead or the back of her neck.

Offer her emotional support

Labor and delivery can be an emotionally challenging experience. Your partner may feel scared, anxious, or overwhelmed. It is important to offer her emotional support during this time.

Reassure her that she is strong and capable. Tell her how proud you are of her. Offer her words of encouragement and love.

Let her know that you are there for her and that you will support her through every step of the process.

Take care of yourself

It is important to take care of yourself during labor and delivery as well. This will help you to be the best possible support for your partner.

Get enough sleep before the big day. Eat healthy meals and snacks. Bring snacks and drinks for yourself to the hospital.

If you need to take a break, ask a trusted friend or family member to sit in for you. It is important to take breaks so that you can come back to your partner refreshed and ready to support her.


Supporting your partner during labor and delivery is one of the most important things you can do as a partner. By being present and engaged, advocating for her, helping her to stay comfortable, offering her emotional support, and taking care of yourself, you can help her to have a positive and empowering birth experience.

Additional tips for supporting your partner during labor and delivery:
  • Communicate with your partner about her birth plan and preferences. What are her hopes and fears for labor and delivery? What kind of support does she want from you?
  • Take a childbirth class together. This will help you to learn about the different stages of labor and delivery, and about the different ways to support your partner.
  • Be prepared for anything. Labor and delivery can be unpredictable, so it is important to be flexible and to have a backup plan.
  • Trust your partner. She is strong and capable, and she knows her body better than anyone else.

Remember to enjoy the experience! Labor and delivery is a time of great joy and excitement. Savor every moment and cherish the memory of bringing your child into the world.

For more information about how to be a loving and supportive father and partner, ask us about our fatherhood classes. The class is designed to help you and your partner be the best father and mother you can be to your new child.